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TRM38
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posted March 06, 2004 11:04 PM
I have found in the past that if I was asking myself these type of ? that either the S.O had to go or the racing had to go....I still have the racing and thank god I have a wonderfuly supportive wife that understands how this incurable disease of racing has infected my blood.....good luck with the survey.


Sidebite252
Member
posted March 07, 2004 04:11 AM
It makes a difference if your wife or SO is involved. My wife goes to every race. Helps me unload and prep equipment then usually goes to the stands. Comes back to the pits and cleans helmet and install tear-offs. She has helped change flats during races when short on crew but very supportive and that makes it easier for me to be a race junkie. On the other hand - over 25 years ago when dad raced - Mom could have cared less and very seldom came to the track. Lots of pressure on the spending of money and not taking care of things around the house which played a part in dad's saling of his equipment and ducking out of racing untill I jumped back in several years ago (now he's worse than I am - 65 yr old kid!) Spouse involvement is important.


joeyi07
Member
posted March 07, 2004 04:53 AM
my 2 wives said if i keep spending all the money on racing they will leave i miss them sometime


orange2mod
Member
posted March 07, 2004 06:26 AM
They bring beer to the shop when we run out.


44nymod
Member
posted March 07, 2004 07:41 AM
My girlfriend or soon to be wife is very supportive. One thing that I have found to work is make them feel like a part of the team. Give them simple things to do to start out with, then start working in things they thought they could never do. I let mine drive my Mod in the yard and in powder puff races. This has worked for friends of mine as for my SO she would rather go to a race during the summer than go out to dinner! Mine expects me to get the car ready for the season. She's all ready to go.


joetaylor
Member
posted March 07, 2004 08:21 AM
their is none Iget more help form my 5 year old son we are currently working on a car for him go cart style we even have a small track 10 mi from home he has got the counter stering down. I just cant get him to lift going into the corner good or bad I have him involved into racing he is a big help at the track last year he was telling me that I had to tighten the car up when It was loose @ 5 years old

spousel unit who need them when you have your #1 fan and crew chief to help LOL

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U LIFT U LOOSE


racer17j
Member
posted March 07, 2004 08:47 AM
my wife pretty much hates me race'n more and more every year. i guess if it didn't cost so much and didn't take up so much time she would be fine with it so she says can somebody point me in the direction of a free ride that i don't have to work on lol didn't think so, my daughter is old enough now that she can help me out getting tools and washing the car so at leaste i have somebody that likes it and my boy pushes his plastic mark martin car around the house making motor sounds at the age of 1 so there's hope there too lol


24KC
Member
posted March 07, 2004 09:29 AM
If a guy is working on his car, he's not chasin in a bar! My wife has been VERY supportive and that for 27+ yrs! She goes to every race, tapes my race, scores the race and keeps a running total of winnings. She sits with the same friends in the stands(yes, many are even cometitor's wives)and continually makes more friends. I tried quitting once(blew both latemodel motors) and I must have been hard to live with, because SHE insisted I get a mod to race next year. If only they had "racers anominous"....I doubt it'd work though. RA guy 1 would have a chassis in the back field, and RA guy 2 would have a motor in the shed, and RA guy 3 would still have a trailer...they'd all be back racin'! Oh well, at least it's a legal drug!


Racer111
Member
posted March 07, 2004 10:49 AM
Mine watched me race once in 1999 .


Racer X
Member
posted March 08, 2004 09:08 PM
I guess im pretty luck,My soon to be wife dad started her in racing when she turned 16.So my SO is a racer,she is great.When we purchased a house together and started planning for our wedding this year she took it upon her self to not try to start racing alot so I could have more money for the modified im building.We are pretty young,only 21,wich makes me feel lucky,Iv seen alot of wifes or girlfriends say 'me or racin"and as the country song says,'well im gonna miss her'.

She will help work on it,and iff she doesnt wanna do that she will hang out and keep my company.She lets me spend every dime of money we can for racin,and in almost 5 years of dating she has only missed 3 of my races.

NJantz
Member
posted March 09, 2004 01:50 PM
I have told the women that the car was here before they got here itll be here while they are here and if they have a problem with it itll be here when they are gone, I know its hrsh but this last one completly understands,yippie...lol


modracr41
Member
posted March 15, 2004 09:15 PM
Well, mine was very excited when I got started several years ago. She went with me to pick up our first car, then she helped all she could when I worked on it. The problem was, that I soon figured out that I had purchased a real piece of work. It was an asphalt mod that had been run on the dirt. The cage was mounted so far forward that you could reach out and touch the air cleaner from the driver's seat. NO rear %. Well, I found and subsequently purchased an upgrade without discussing it with her. THAT was a fatal mistake. Ever since, she wants nothing to do with the car or racing. She'll go if some friends of hers are taking their car, but when I get ready to go with ours, she could care less. I go to the track each week and see families doing this as a family outing, but I guess in my situation, that's just a "pipe dream". Just my two cents, and ....................See ya at the track!!


leftturn73
Member
posted March 16, 2004 08:49 AM
My wife is not the type to come out to the garage and help. If we do not have the kids she will sometimes come into the pits. I have found if you thank her and give her the first acknowledgement after getting out of the car in the winners circle this gets many points for you. During racing season I take my wife to dinner once a week and spend one night a week just with her, maybe a movie. This goes a long way, try it.


44nymod
Member
posted March 16, 2004 08:15 PM
Leftturn73 you definately got your stuff together. I agree with you! I do the same with my future wife. We have to remember that the ones that take care of us need a life too.


GO 24
Member
posted March 17, 2004 08:32 AM
I can't complain either, I run my my LM on Fridays & some Saturdays, our 15yr old son runs his Kart on most Saturdays, my best friend runs his mini-sprint at the same track on Saturday as my son and then he turns around again & runs on some Sundays so were running all weekend long. My son & I have the same car owner and part of the deal is I do all the maintenance (which is okay with me anyway) through the week, I also build roll cages for fig 8 cars, bumpers for LM's, bodies, and own/run www.fasttrakgraphics.com besides my normal 40hr week FT job! SLEEP is a luxury during this part of the season with all the vinyl orders, getting stuff ready, new bodies etc... but she never say's a thing and as a matter of fact she applies most of the decals on the cars that come in!
Back a few years ago (before I had a car owner) I demolished a car and messed up an engine all in 1 night (went up over a wall, caught a post that ripped through the chassis, into the pan, and broke the crank), at that point I was ready to quit and she stepped in, she actually started talking to her customers (she's a barber), a guy got interested in our racing and now owns approx 80% of what I run!
The key to keeping our marriage happy is I include her in everything, she helps in the pits, takes care of setting up autograph sessions at our sponsors places of biz and does most of the vinyl application. I spend at least 1 if not 2 nights a week with her, I try to take care of all the honey-do's in a timley fashion, and I try to focus alot of time on here through the off season.
Your priorities have to be right-and I don't be racin' 1st!


Hobbystocker
Member
posted March 18, 2004 01:44 PM
My brother and I are both owners of our IMCA Stock Car and our wives , luckily, are very much into the racing deal. They both sometimes nag about the money if something comes up that we need right away but for the most part they're both cool with it. I drive and my brother wrenches so they have different priorities as far as what to pay attention to. My 5 year old little boy is alwways wanting to "Go with Daddy" to work on the car now so that's going to be fun.


robhbk24
Member
posted March 18, 2004 04:33 PM
GOD, FAMILY, CHURCH, RACIN, WORK.. MY WIFE IS VERY SUPPORTIVE , AS WELL AS MY MOM AND DAD{#1 SPONSOR} MY SONS 3 DUAGHTER 12 THINKS THE CAR IS TOO COOL, INVOLVE THEM WHEN I CAN, AND AS SOMEONE SAID EARLER ONE NIGHT A WEEK WITH THE FAMILY/SO GOES A LONG WAY. WE RACE WITH SEVERAL CLOSE FRIEND SO IT IS USUALLY A WEEKEND GET-TOGETHER..


3dracing
Member
posted March 22, 2004 06:27 PM
I agree with dirt poor racing,God,family,racing,work.You will find with putting God first,the other things will fall into place.He will give you that supportive wife and what ever esle you need.Don"t mean to make this a sermon but seen it happen time and time again and not only in racing but whatever you do.


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